Tuesday, October 8, 2013

Tips For Surviving Long Distance Relationship Depression


Surviving long distance relationship (LDR) depression can be even tougher on you, because of the obvious distance and lack of closeness you feel with your partner. I'm going to cover some tips I found helpful when I was suffering from LDR depression at times in my life.

Fail To Plan, Plan To Fail

I was trying to cope with being upset, and I didn't want to ruin the conversation with my partner. So I planned my grieving time earlier so I could get it out of my system before our nightly talk. Planning time to deal with your long distance relationship depression is key to avoiding it altogether. Remember, you can spread LDR depression easily by having a few 'downer' conversations with your partner!

Share A Passion With Your Partner

I found a good cure for my long distance relationship depression, was to share my passions with my partner. I loved talking on the phone or over MSN with web cams. When I had heartfelt conversations with my partner, the distance became closer. I forgot about my LDR depression until I hung up the phone or turned off the laptop. I had to draw on those warm and caring feelings in the times we couldn't communicate - and this helped me cope with my LDR depression.

Trust, The Building Block Of Every Long Distance Relationship

I was in denial about trust being a factor in my LDR depression. I really didn't believe that I didn't trust my partner while being away. I had grown a low self-esteem while my partner was away, and that was a contributing factor to my LDR depression. I found through sharing passion with my partner, I could see, hear and feel their love and affection for me. This helped me immensely with my LDR depression.

Express Your Dreams And Desires

While I was suffering from long distance relationship depression, I needed to open up more, express my love and affection for my partner as much as possible. There are so many ways to express affection: emails, phone calls, text messages, e-cards - but what about your dreams and desires. When I put something unique into my feelings and showed them to my partner - my LDR depression was minimized and I felt empowered.

Assumptions - They Make A Something Out Of You And Me

Assumptions are deadly when dealing with LDR depression. When I assumed things, I would get my mind into a tizzy about it. I'd forget what the actual issue was, or what my partner had 'really' said to me. Never assume, get the facts!

Conclusion

Put yourself first and remember your own needs. You may be so busy trying to meet your partner's needs that you're neglecting yourself. Neglecting yourself leads to you getting burnt out emotionally, and that leads to long distance relationship depression.

Take care of yourself.

Create Money With The Magic of Believing


If you've never dipped into Claude M. Bristol's The Magic of Believing, it may be time to do so - especially if you need to hit the refresh key on your money & financial situation SOON.

Claude Bristol dictated the first draft of his brochure in its entirety in less than five hours, without notes or references of any kind before him. He had no idea what he wrote during those five hours would create a sensation. Demand for his brochure, T.N.T. - It Rocks the Earth - published in 1932, was so great that he later expanded the brochure into a book. A third book was called TNT: The Power Within You.

There is no question Claude Bristol felt believing added "plus value" to our lives. Bristol was a soldier in World War 1 in France and Germany, became a newspaper man who also spent years studying the power of belief, and later became a highly successful investment banker.

"You must have a clear pattern drawn in your mind. What is your exact goal?" Bristol asked his readers. "Wealth, can you fix the amount in figures? What achievements? Not one out of a hundred people can answer these questions," he claimed.

Belief attracts that upon which it is directed. Job, in the Old Testament, even admitted "For the thing I greatly feared is come upon me." Our positive thoughts, Bristol believed, bring welcome results eventually, even if our beginnings are bumpy.

Bristol quotes scientist Sir Arthur Eddington who claimed he believed "the mind has the power to affect groups of atoms and even tamper with the odds of atomic behavior, and that even the course of the world is not predetermined by physical laws, but may be altered by the uncaused volition of human beings."

The message of Claude Bristol in The Magic of Believing? "That people charged with the vibrations of strong beliefs sometimes do the miraculous, things others often say are unbelievable."

Our conscious mind is the source of thought, our sub-attentive mind (what some call the subconscious) appears to be the source of power, and Bristol believed its existence was "beyond space and time" and that it is "a powerful sending and receiving station with a universal hookup." It also operates best when much of the chatter in our mind is quieted.

"The subconscious mind," Bristol claimed, "will not take the trouble to work for those who do not believe in it." For those who believe the Source of Power is MORE than that possessed by what I call the sub-attentive mind, look at Bristol's statement about its connection with a "universal hookup;" in other words, a power source outside itself into which it is plugged and draws on for energy to carry out its assignments.

When you or I say, "Yes, I can do that," it is as if - to quote the philosopher William James - the faith of a man or woman "acts on the powers above him [or her] as a claim and creates its own verification."

Money, Bristol says, "always sensitive, runs to cover when fear suggestions begin to circulate." The opposite of fear is what Dr. Robert Schuller calls "possibility thinking." "We influence events," Dr. Shailer Matthews then of the University of Chicago claimed, "by great desires" in which we believe.

Yes, there are instances in life where we believe we believed as much as believing was possible and, in our view, things went askew and we can't understand why. These are cases where the advice of a former Supreme Court justice, Justice Oliver Holmes, is worth noting: "Have faith and pursue the unknown ends," he advised a young man who asked for advice on a personal matter.

Bristol's salary as a beginning investment banker was quite small, yet he always kept before him a "mental picture" of wealth. When on the telephone with a client or during quiet times he doodled $$$$$ signs on bits of paper that were on his desk. He wanted his "suggestible mind" to get the message that prosperity was important to him. "It is the repetitions of affirmations that lead to belief," Bristol wrote. "And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen."

"What one thing do you desire above anything else?" Bristol asked the readers of The Magic of Believing. He recognized and admitted "It is very difficult for the average person to concentrate or hold a thought picture for any great period." Too much else going on in the mind and it distracts us from our dreams all too often. This is why Bristol advocated writing your goals, as well as your faith or affirmation statements, on three by five cards and reviewing these cards daily to impress the inner mind that you are serious and you mean business.

If you're a sales person, Bristol - a businessman himself - claimed "You must be thoroughly SOLD on the idea yourself before you can convince [or sell] to others."

Bristol indicated he received thousands of letters from business people who told him his technique of looking in the mirror, into your own eyes, breathing to calm the mind, and speaking their affirmations aloud had helped self-confidence immeasurably as well as their profits. "Your mirror shows you the person others see when they look at you," Bristol observed. "There is no better way than rehearsing [your presentation] before the mirror. Use it to build yourself into the person you wish to be."

"A person who desires riches must go where the riches are," Bristol told his readers. It's hard to amass a fortune on a desert island. "If you're after money, you must go where it [money] is being spent."

We have untapped powers but few, to quote the British novelist Colin Wilson, have yet to activate the higher circuits. Of one woman he knew, an Opal Whitely, Bristol, commenting on her powerful beliefs, says "It was uncanny, almost supernatural, the way circumstances suited themselves to her plans."

The Magic of Believing is a success classic. Fear-thought hold us back every time we start to get excited about launching something new. These anxieties not only create a lot of unwanted chemical changes in our own bodies, they keep away from us the things desired that would, when realized, make more of those wonderful wealth-achieving chemicals that make us feel so good.

Until you have the kind of faith and confidence in your future that Bristol writes about perhaps the advice of Dorothea Brande in her book Wake Up and Live is a good place to begin. "Act [and live] as if it were impossible to fail." If you're not a believer yet, try her advice for one day - which is a lot easier than saying do it for a lifetime - and see what happens. Bristol would say, if you pay close attention, you'll find, in ways you never imagined, that your belief is paying off.

"You attract," Bristol wrote, "that on which you steadily focus your imagination."

Once you attract it? That's when the real work begins! Are you up for the challenge of being challenged on a scale you never dreamed your dreams would ask of you? If your answer is yes, then may your answer to your dreams be, "I'm ready to do the work demanded of me," and may your approach to your customers be like the sign Bristol saw in an office building: "We do the impossible - any place, any time."

"You have to think big to be big," Bristol said - and his message resonated with people from all walks of life, from salespeople to performers, from housewives to politicians - to get a better job, increase their income, find a mate, and to even get a restful night's sleep. Bristol wrote that his files were filled with letters from people in all walks of life telling him how The Magic of Believing had changed their lives. "...many have used it in their business to double, treble, even quadruple their incomes."

During America's depression years Bristol used it to save his firm from financial ruin. "In that same period it came to me in a flash why my firm was going on the rocks - not because of the threatening outside happenings and events, but because of the mental attitude of our employees. We were all succumbing to mass fear thoughts:...with our own thoughts of ruin we were attracting the disaster to ourselves.

"It occurred to me that to save the firm and begin fighting the Depression itself, all I needed to do was reverse the thinking of every person connected with our organization. I set about doing that very thing." Frank Camp, a friend, declared that Bristol's efforts were followed "by the most remarkable transformation of individuals and organization as well."

Will the Magic of Believing work for YOU? Bristol's answer would be: you can only find out by trying it yourself. The Magic of Believing, Bristol boldly claimed, was the EVIDENCE of things desired working their way toward us, and we better grab hold of belief in them while the opportunity is available.

Do I Have Depression?


Do you think you have symptoms of depression? Have you lost interest in things you used to enjoy, or lost the zeal you used to have for life or suddenly adopted some dangerous lifestyle? If yes, it could be you have depression. But if it's depression, what type of depression? That is, are you suffering from major depression also known as clinical depression or a less serious form of depression?

Some types of the common depression are:

Major depressive disorder also known as major depression and clinical depression

Dysthymic disorder

Manic depression

Symptoms common to the above types of depression are:

Lost of interest in daily activities

Regular feelings of sadness

Regular feelings of helplessness and hopelessness

Feelings of worthlessness

Significant weight lost or weight gain as a result of your lack of eating or over eating.

Changes in sleep pattern.

Feeling restless and on edge all the time.

Easily agitated.

Regular feelings of lack of strength or energy. Feeling fatigue, sluggish and physically drained.

Finding it difficult to concentrate.

Regular feelings of aches and pain. Headaches, back pain, aches in the muscles and stomach pain.

Thoughts of death or suicide.

Having trouble making decisions.

If you are experiencing most of these symptoms consistently for at least two weeks, then you're suffering from clinical depression. But don't panic, clinical depression can be successfully treated with a combination of antidepressant and cognitive behavioral therapy.

If it turns out you may be suffering from depression, talk to your doctor about it, he or she will be able to direct you to a qualified doctor who will discuss with you effective treatment options.

What if it is Adjustment disorder or Situational Depression?

Adjustment disorder also known as situation depression is depressive symptoms developed in response to specific stressful situation or event. A depression that result due to a significant change in your life. If you have moods, try to remember the last events and think if they could cause your depression. This is the way used to determine whether a person is suffering from clinical or situational depression.

Often this type of depression doesn't need medicine and it's short lived, at most 6 months. You may overcome it without doing anything or simply my building your coping skills and/or talking through your feelings with a therapist.

To build your coping skills, find what makes you feel good about you and your life. Resist getting caught up with people's perception of you. Live your life and do what you want. Find what is going to make you happy regardless of any other factor and aim to achieve that for yourself. If you find it difficult to do it alone, get a therapist and do some soul searching.

Effects of Depression - Suicidal Thoughts


Depression is essentially a state of mind. In a depressed mental disposition, the person remains in a state of low mood and develops repugnance towards practically everything surrounding him. It can adversely affect a person's physical state, mental behavior and his emotions. A person under depression has a tendency to become irritable, sad, restless, bothersome, hopeless, melancholic and worthless and have a feeling of anxiety. A despondent mood is a natural reaction towards certain events in life that are considered to be a symptom of several clinical conditions and a characteristic of psychological syndromes. A person suffering from depression develops a tendency of losing total interest in activities that at one time provided happiness and pleasure. There is a loss of appetite and encountering problems in concentrating or even resulting in partial lapse in memory. Further, there is an element of indecision in the person and one of the most dangerous symptoms is when he contemplates on committing suicide.

A depressed state of mind is closely associated with a large number of psychological problems emanating from exhaustion, depletion of energy, over-sleep, lack of sleep or insomnia and perhaps even digestive problems. These problems are considered to counteract any type of treatment administered to the patient. A large number of disorders that are primary disturbances of mood are in fact mood disorders, within which a major depressive disorder is also known as a major case of depression or clinical depression. This condition comes up when a person has been suffering from bouts of depression for at least two weeks or has experienced a total loss of interest in activities that evoked maximum pleasure. Acute depression may also result in a total nervous breakdown. This is one of the most serious psychological conditions where it is necessary for a patient to consult a psychiatrist. A person suffering from depression may not be aware of the psychological problem that he is suffering from. The symptoms that may be appearing may not be visible, yet they are easily discernible to a psychiatrist. The behavioral patterns of the person suffering from a depression would be visible to any other person. The effects of a depressed mind may be reflected on his behavior with his family members, his colleagues at his work place and his strange and odd moods. A person in a depressed mood becomes like a ship without a rudder and moves around aimlessly without any objective in mind.

It would be pertinent to mention here that a large number of mental disorders emanate from conditions of the person both at his work place or at home. A nagging wife or a sadistic manager could make life miserable for the person concerned. A husband, who is continually nagged by an overbearing wife or neglected by other members of his family, develops a very strong tendency to suffer from severe mental problems. Mental stress takes its toll on the human brain. On the other hand at the work place, a male or female manager who is badgering constantly the person with unrestrained insults and demeaning him before his colleagues is considerably a very strong reason in itself for depression to set in. There are certain cases where a person feels a misfit amongst his colleagues and friends and this feeling of desolation tends to make a recluse of him and he refrains from sharing his feelings with anyone. The basic reason of a person not sharing his problems with even a close person such as one's wife or a friend is his fear of being ridiculed. When this emotion becomes strong, a person loses interest in life and contemplates on committing suicide, a situation which becomes disastrous. There is no pre-defined age for suffering from depression as it strikes without any warning.

Depression is a not an incurable disease. It is a malady that requires a lot of patience both in the person undergoing treatment as well as the person who is treating the patient. It may take a long time to transform the mental state of a despondent person. The treatment is long and may even take years. The treatment may include medicinal treatment including psychotropic drugs and medicines. There is a possibility that the drugs may bring about effects which remain for a very short period and with the prolonged use of the drug, some of these effects would wear off. However, some patients suffering from insomnia are administered sleeping drugs to induce sleep so that their mind could get some rest. A patient also has to undergo psychological treatment in the form of psychiatric consultation. It is extremely important for the psycho-analyst to analyze thoroughly the mental condition of the patient before starting the treatment. A full patient medical history, physical assessment and a thorough assessment of the symptoms assist in determining the exact cause of the depression. A complete medical history of the patient medical history, physical assessment and a thorough evaluation of the symptoms help determine the precise cause of the depression. It is the prerogative of the psychiatrist to decide on the method of treatment since he is the best person to decide on the type of treatment provided to the patient that would stand to benefit him in the long run.

In conclusion, it is strongly recommended that any symptoms arising from depressive moods should not be ignored and should be referred to a psychiatrist immediately without any delay. There is an old adage which goes like this, 'a nail lost is a shoe lost, a shoe lost is a horseman lost, a horseman lost means a war is lost.' Therefore, timely action could avert a severe mental disorder. Regular and effectual treatment result in a positive cure from this problem.

Monday, October 7, 2013

Supplements and Depression - 4 Supplements to Help Defeat Depression Symptoms


Depression strikes many people at some point of another in their lives. Persistent feelings of sadness or hopelessness, anxiety, loss of interest in activities you used to enjoy, and changes in appetite and sleep patterns can all signal the onset of depression. If these symptoms are severe or debilitating, a visit to your doctor might be in order. However, for mild cases of depression symptoms, natural approaches can be very effective in managing the blues. Supplements can be very useful in this application. Consulting with your naturopath about new supplements you plan to take and to create the ideal supplement "cocktail" for you is advisable for safety and optimal health. Here are 4 supplements you can try to fight the symptoms of depression:

1.       A food based multivitamin, and calcium if you don't consume lots of calcium rich foods. The mind body connection is a strong one, and supporting overall physical health is important for supporting your mental and emotional health.  

2.      A high quality fish oil. Fish oil contains certain fatty acids that have been shown to promote brain health. Fish oil also has other physical benefits including anti-inflammatory properties and cardiovascular benefit.

3.      L-theanine. This natural anti-anxiety supplement helps to ease the anxiety that can go along with depression. It comes readily in capsule form, and also a sublingual spray for quick absorption.

4.      5 HTP (hydroxytryptophan). This is a natural precursor to serotonin, a brain neurotransmitter that is contributes to mood regulation. In this form, it is the next step of the breakdown of tryptophan, the substance found in tukey that creates the "turkey bliss" sensation at Thanksgiving. It typically comes in capsule form and is often taken in conjunction with L-theanine.

How to Deal With Panic Attack Depression


When an individual suffers from panic attack depression then normally they suffer high levels of anxiety as well. The two are actually closely related in panic attacks but their symptoms are very different.

When one has panic attack depression you feel lethargic, have no energy or interest in anything and just getting out of bed is a mission. Other symptoms include anger and possible suicidal thoughts. However when you have high levels of anxiety you feel as though your heart is constantly racing and some of the other symptoms are sweating, shaking, nausea and having an upset stomach.

My Anxiety symptoms: On more of a personal note, I myself have an uneasy feeling like someone is standing on my chest and I cannot breathe and feel the need to constantly fidget or move around and sometimes when my anxiety levels are very high I feel as though my heart is going to explode out of my chest...

These two conditions when experienced together greatly increases you risk of having frequent attacks and can be quite dangerous for the individual experiencing them.

Panic attack depression and anxiety are sometimes, more often than not, treated with the same medication. Anti-depressants.

The problem with anti-depressants is although they are to help the symptoms they do not treat the underlying problem on provide temporary relief. Another major drawback with anti-depressants are that the side effects closely mimic the actual symptoms you are trying to rid yourself of. Side effects of anti-depressants include possible increase in suicidal thoughts or actions, rage, aggressiveness, irritability and restlessness.

Kind of a catch 22 situation if you ask me.

Many people have reported that using the natural alternative herb "kava" greatly reduce the symptoms of anxiety and panic attack depression, so definitely worth a try.

A good thing about the Kava is that you cannot become addicted to the medication as you can with the prescription medication.

Here are some other treatments for high levels of anxiety besides using prescription medication:

Exercise & relaxation techniques

Exercise has always been a great way to reduce ones stress and anxiety so make sure you do enough of it. You do not have to overdo this just exercise a couple of times per week and this will help reduce your levels of anxiety and improve your overall feeling of well being. This will definitely then ease your feelings of panic attack depression as exercise works both your physical and physiological attributes. One can be taught meditation as well to help.

Cognitive behavioral therapy

Get the negativity out of your mind! This is what cognitive behavioral therapy does for you. Having a clear mind not full of negative thoughts, especially those of stressing when your next attack will be, is the first step on the road to a healthy mind and body. Negative thoughts relating to your condition or in general will harm your condition even further and this is why it is important to get help on that issue.

Keeping a close eye on your diet and nutrition intake

This is not an article about dieting so do not worry...

It is,however, about making sure that you avoid certain foods that can "add fuel to the fire".

An example of a substance that can do this is nicotine and caffeine. Sugary foods as well are good to avoid and certain other foodstuffs. It is actually a good idea to visit a nutritionist to help you go through what to avoid for your symptoms and to negatively impact on your condition. They can also help you in what vitamins you can take to fight the anxiety or depression.

On a last note it has been observed that patients who have high levels of anxiety and are experiencing depression do take longer to get over their conditions as the depression further complicates the issue.

Remember though that as noted above there are many effective treatments to alleviate the condition for example: treatment by medication, therapy and relaxation techniques. Make a start today and take your life back from panic attack depression.

How To Get Over An Affair - Tips On Where To Begin


How to get over an affair is a question that bothers many people who want to restore their marriages and still get some assurance that the marriage will work. Matrimonial recovery is a difficult process, as it involves very sensitive matters of infidelity. A person needs his or her partner's support in the process of recovery. Getting over an affair requires hard work and a lot of understanding for both parties. Many people fall victims to infidelity due to their partner's lack of commitment and attention, which was shown earlier, when the relationship was young.

The first decision is to make up one's mind about breaking-up with their lover. The second most pressing issue is after breaking-up with your lover, will you be in a position to love your spouse just as much as you did before. When a person makes such crucial decisions, it is important to cut out all the means of communication they had with their lover like all the Internet and phone-calls. People should focus all their attention on getting their marriage back on track, rather than thinking about their lover.

The very first step on how to get over an affair is to end any type of relationship with their lover. As long as a person is still communicating or seeing their lover, they have little chances of reviving their marriage. The first weeks after separation are filled with depression and agony and a person may develop withdrawal symptoms. These are compulsive craving accompanied by intense feeling of depression and anxiety, but they fade away with time. Even if it might take longer to get over the withdrawal symptoms, it is absolutely essential to go along with it, just to get your marriage on track. Your partner has to put a lot of effort in trying to fill the void, which triggered the affair in the first place. The only time you can appreciate your spouse's affection is after dealing with depression and anxiety associated with withdrawal. This is also the time when a person is ready for reconciliation. After this duration, people may find themselves in love again, but if they give into their withdrawal craving, it might extend their withdrawal period as the feeling of anxiety comes back more stronger. If this happens it might test your spouse's patience hence, a person should be very cautious when trying to communicate or see their lovers again.

There are some steps a person can take to avoid contacting their lovers when trying to get over an affair. One of them is honesty. Telling your spouse all about your lover and the decision to stay away from them and restore your marriage helps a great deal. This should continue during the entire time of withdrawal as it opens ways, which prevent one from being selfish and inconsiderate to their spouse's feelings. No one can restore any relationship based on lies or even deception. It is good to be honest even if there is a chance your spouse may reject you.

The second thing is to always account for all your time. It is good to make sure that your spouse knows about your whereabouts and each activity you are undertaking throughout the day. This prevents you from making contact with your former lover. It is good to spend quality time with your spouse during the withdrawal period. This is because, the more time you spend with him or her, the less tempted you will be to contact your lover.